The Club’s motto – Swing in Style – is a motto that hits the mark! Subtle lighting, cosy corners and luxurious fabrics and fittings set the scene for a truly extravagant experience which invigorates the body and mind. Set over multiple levels with a myriad of themes, each one is tailored for the discerning tastes of the diverse clientèle that visits The Couples Club.
Second Friday of each month
The venue’s owner, John, understands the needs and desires of his guests, and he has honed his vision over many years. John understands that not everyone visits the venue to swing. Guests may come to enjoy the voyeuristic delights, some like to touch and some like to exhibit.
John’s vision for the club is an environment where guests can embrace their sexuality in a playful and friendly setting where personal limitations are respected. It’s a place where fantasies can become reality and often, anything goes.
Swingers in the know have made The Couples Club their no.1 destination for a sexy night out for well over 20 years. For many guests, a visit to The Couples Club is something they look forward to, where new friendships are formed and consummated. The venue’s sole purpose is a club for genuine swinging couples – the club only opens on club nights, offering guests the opportunity to meet other sexy, like-minded couples. There are no compromises in this direction and no doubt one of the main reasons why The Couples Club retains its preference among the swinger’s community as the destination of choice.
The Club plays host to some of Sydney’s stand-out swinger’s nights:
ANGELS & DEMONS
An institution in the swinging scene – Angels & Demons is our favourite night and a must do! Held on the second Friday of each month. Dress in your sexiest attire or release your favourite fetish. Socialise in the velvet lounge and establish the night, before heading to the dance floor to release your inhibitions. Take the next step and indulge in your fantasy – the options are truly only limited by your imagination.
FIRST TIMERS FRIDAY
For those who are new to the scene and looking to take things slowly, this is the night for you. There is no pressure to play, and remember, everyone who visits The Couples Club has had a “first time” swinging experience, so everyone appreciates how important it is for you to feel comfortable.
PURE DECADENCE
Our dress down parties go off! Sydney couples tell us they like to dress up and it seems they like dressing down even more. Just BYO alcohol and BYO partner and we provide a sexy provocative environment to party and play in. Join us for a decadent night of swinging fun on the third Friday of every month.
CASANOVA PARTY
Cultivate pleasure and make it the chief business of your life by making the Casanova party a fixture on your calendar. The Couples Club brings you a unique event for couples and single ladies. Sexy bar and wait staff and a hot male stripper on hand to ensure the atmosphere is conducive to cultivating pleasure.
COUPLES CLUB CONDITIONS
Each event is subject to certain conditions for guests wishing to attend. Most guests agree that adhering to these conditions has made The Couples Club the venue that it is today. The club does not compromise on these and asks all the uphold them.
- Pressuring: Guests must ask before touching – No means No
- No Men Alone: Men must be with Partners at all time downstairs
- Recruiting for parties and collecting phone numbers is not on
WEBSITE
OPENING HOURS
- THURSDAYS: 8:00PM-12:00AM / Selected Single men welcome after 9:30pm
- FRIDAYS: 9:00PM-3:00AM / Welcomes Couples and Single Ladies Only
- SATURDAYS: 9:00PM-3:00AM / Welcomes Couples and Single Ladies Only
- SUNDAYS: 8:00PM-12:00AM / Selected Single men welcome after 9:30pm
LOCATION
226 Commonwealth Street, Surry Hills, New South Wales, 2010
CONTACT
- The Couples Club is a non-licensed venue – BYO only.
Chantelle Austin is the pseudonym for relationship designer and lifestyle expert Rach. She is often seen in the media speaking openly about her swinging relationship and she wrote The Essential Guide for Adventurous Couples.
I tell you what; the women in the lifestyle are generally in the best position to get what they want and single women even more so! By the way, we call them “unicorns” because they are almost mythical creatures and they are very much in demand!
When you go onto any dating oriented website, the ratio of males to females is almost astronomical. The ladies really do get to pick and choose. Couples are close behind and the poor single guys have to prove they are better than their competition just to get a look in (that’s a whole other article). But it’s the single gals that really can get a lot from their swinging playmates and the lifestyle in general, so to the curious single gals out there, this article is for you.
I may have an ulterior motive on this one but meh, I can write what I want!
I get a lot of Requests From Couples for Single Women.
They want to try a threesome, the female of the couple is generally bi/bi-curious, and most women I know have tried it or continue to enjoy it. So they are looking for that special someone who wants no-strings-attached play dates with at least a woman (in most cases) and potentially a man too.
Couples find it harder, at times, to find another couple where they are both attracted to the other two. Often there is only one person that a partner is attracted to, so it takes more time to find the right people. For that reason, a single lady is ideal (and it’s not always about the girl on girl action).
Swingers are a Girl’s Best Friend!
Being a single lady in the scene means that you often get free entry into couples events (that sometimes cost couples over $100 to attend), invitations to come back repeatedly, referrals to other clubs/events/couples (as a playmate) and single ladies get to pick and choose who they play with. You could quite easily fill your phone contacts with couples you can call on to enjoy a night of no-strings-attached raunchiness.
The swinging scene is a playground that creates quite a safe space (no pressure environments and with the right people), for women to explore their sexuality, and to explore what sex has to offer with it’s various positions, a multitude of playmates who all have different skills and techniques, and a bunch of sexy people on the menu. I have personally learned more about how my body works, and discovered new ways to enjoy sex by being in the lifestyle. Oh and have met some very sexy people along the way!
If you Your Intention is Purely Physical & to Have fun, Then Couples are Looking for you.
The majority of couples have a very solid relationship so as long as your intention is purely physical; to have fun and then move on eventually, whether that’s after the first time or years from now, then couples are looking for you (no, really, they are… and lots of them!) For the same reason, they are safe to enjoy that physical fun with if you aren’t ready to settle down because they are already very happy in their relationship.
The best part is that couples generally treat their playmates with respect and are keen to have a single female join them on a regular basis; they will do their best to impress and take care of you. Some fantastic friendships with benefits have started this way… Sometimes couples even have a beloved single man in their friendship circle and cupid gets a look in. You just never know when you’re going to meet a special someone!
Play Safe, Have fun – go Home With a Smile on Your Face.
The majority of people in the lifestyle are committed to playing safe, and many couples have children so they are not likely to engage in unsafe sex. Many also get regularly tested and treated if anything shows up. It’s very important to the couples in the scene to be disease free and hygienic. Word can get around about who to avoid just as easily as about who to enjoy. For single women who want to play as safe as possible, the swinging couples are at the top of the list!
So if you are a woman who really enjoys sex, is open-minded, isn’t intentionally looking to settle down into a relationship, is curious or exploring sexuality, likes meeting new people and sometimes just wants some one-night stands without having to pick up some random in a pub/club, you may be the mythical unicorn in the room!
]]>Released today is an exciting new novel by swinging lifestyle guru and best selling novelist, Cooper S. Beckett. Known for his best selling memoir My Life on the Swingset: Adventures in Swinging and Polyamory and host of Life on the Swingset: The Podcast, we are super excited to get stuck into his brand new novel, which takes us back to the beginning about being a newbie in the swinging lifestyle.
We all come to a point in our lives where we finally ask the ever-looming question, “Is this all there is?” And most of us coast along afterwards, just accepting that the answer to that question is probably, “Yes, this is it.” Sometimes, though, we’re lucky. Sometimes we run into the right people at the right time.
Cooper S. Beckett teaches, titillates, and bares his soul, showing how a life less monogamous can keep sex between couples flourishing.
Ryan and Jennifer are at that point in their marriage, asking that question. Luckily, tonight at a friend’s holiday party, they’re about to run into those very right people at exactly the right time. Bruce and Paige have successfully crossed the Rubicon into the realm of “what else there is.” They’ve discovered delights and a way of living that Ryan and Jennifer have only ever dreamed about.
Their secret? Bruce and Paige are swingers. And very soon now, thanks to a chance meeting and a new friendship, Ryan and Jennifer will close their eyes, clasp hands, and jump into the deep end of life, exploring the untold wonders of sexuality. Hedonistic pleasures that they can’t even fathom yet, threesomes and sex parties and a deep connection with friends and with each other. The swinging lifestyle.
Today is the day they proclaim: “There is more.” Today is the day they change their lives.
Read a review and extract of the book over on the AMM blog page.
Purchase Cooper S. Beckett’s novel here.
]]>Chantelle Austin is the pseudonym for relationship designer and lifestyle expert Rach. She is often seen in the media speaking openly about her swinging relationship and she wrote The Essential Guide for Adventurous Couples. You can read more of her articles on Adult Match Maker.
Well, it was me who was the first to suggest the idea, which shouldn’t be a surprise! I’ll share how I started it but I’ll also give you a few other suggestions because the way I did it isn’t necessarily the most practical nor easiest method to use.
Basically I gave him a threesome with another girl first (and what man is going to say no to that?) so my theory was that he “owed” me one. Can we see the logic? We did that early on in the relationship and it was a few years before we decided to see if we could find a second guy to play with. First time around we found this to be quite challenging and I had performance anxiety (that’s a whole other article) so it didn’t happen then.
It has been an evolution of both our relationship and our level of comfort to get to this point. Some start at the beginning of their relationship, others take years to warm up, and I’m all for getting warm! Hot even… naked?
Getting your partner on board with the idea of swinging is like doing a sales pitch really; your job is to sell them on the idea by painting a picture of all the benefits for them. Telling them how awesome it will be for you to have sex with other people is not going to having them jumping up and saying “right honey, let’s go find some playmates!”
Chantelle Austin is a Real Modern-Day Relationship Sexpert.
I asked my husband what sold him on the idea of swinging or at least a threesome with another guy involved and he said “Ummm… I figured I owed you one. But I was also aware that potentially I would get to shag other girls too.” SOLD!
So what are the benefits you think you’re partner would go for? Think about the benefits for them as an individual but also for you both as a couple. For us it has only strengthened our relationship by allowing each other to have fun. I actually like seeing him with other people! I get to see how much he’s enjoying the moment, which I don’t get to see when he’s having sex with me. It’s a whole new perspective!
Here are my handy tips and hints for enticing your partner to join the swinging scene:
- Discuss the idea of trying something new; something very benign to start with such as sex in the same room with another couple, or having a threesome for them, just to “spice things up”.
- Start slowly; baby steps! Plant the seed so to speak… by this I mean throwing in the odd comment or question over time, such as “have you ever wondered what it’d be like to have a threesome?” or “I read a book the other day and they were talking about how swinging really enhanced their relationship”… You could just leave it on the coffee table by “accident”, ha ha!
- Reaffirm the depth of feeling you have for them before suggesting some swinging fun. Make sure they feel completely loved and that this idea is in no way about you not loving them as much any more.
- Reiterate that there is no pressure at any time and that you’ll only do what they are comfortable with.
- Give them the “temporary” option… “Let’s try this for a little while and see if we like it, and if not, we can stop”… The biggest thing is making it known they are not locked into anything, and you respecting their decision.
- The key here is affirming your feelings for them, suggesting the idea and to start slow. Make sure you listen to them and their concerns and address each one, keeping in mind the benefits you need to express for them.
If after all that the answer is still a flat out “NO”, think of it as only “no for now…” leave it for a while and try broaching the subject again at a later date. It took my husband a couple of years to be comfortable with having another male in the room (which is a funny thought based on what he does with men now!!)
Sometimes people need time to adjust to the idea but there is hope yet! Make a point to build a strong trust and love between you so that the idea of losing you is the last thing they think is happening. It makes a difference.
]]>Article by Kristen Solle from Bustle.com
Jealousy is a bitch. Even the most progressive and chill of us aren’t immune to the nagging questions that can creep into any coupling: Am I enough for him/her? Does s/he like so-and-so more than me? Some try to allay their fears by having strictly monogamous relationships, but dealing with jealousy in open relationships is a bit different, and arguably requires more self-awareness and reflection.
Those unfamiliar with consensual non-monogamy are often incredulous that anyone can survive having multiple partners without being overtaken by the green-eyed monster. In fact, the number one question posed to people in non-traditional relationship structures usually pertains to jealousy. And while it’d be awesome if the answer to those queries was always just, “nah bro, I’m too cool to be jealous,” it’s not usually the case. We’re all wired to deal with emotions differently, no one is 100 percent immune to jealousy, and those who pursue more open forms of romantic attachment are unfortunately just as human and vulnerable as those who go the paired off route.
So if you’re just dipping your toe into the waters of non-monogamy for the first time, or if you’ve been around the block but are now feeling the stirrings of jealousy for the first time, here are five expert-approved approaches to get you through:
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